IF YOU'RE GONNA DO SOMETHING WITHOUT LOVE, DON'T DO IT AT ALL

Love, love, love! What is this?
Many at times, people get into relationships and end up getting broken. Relationship is like a door, love like the key, if you don't know what the key is, you might end up breaking into that door and getting kicked out.

Now love is not like tea and bread, there is more to it than its meaning and name.
Love is not just a "magical sensation" you feel when you meet Mr or Miss Perfect. That MAGICAL SENSATION does not pop up in a twinkle of an eye, as a tree groweth from a seed so does love groweth from strangers to friends, to close friends, to a relationship and then finally marriage which is the end product.

LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL




Scenario: a father loves his teenage son; but when he finds out his beloved son raped his 3 year old sister, that love was diminished. Is that conditional or not conditional?

This all boils down to why most relationships do not last long. The guy has expectations from the girl and vise versa which makes the relationship crash down to ashes. People have different personalities that blend together to make a perfect relationship.

Love is about accepting people the way they are not regarding their flaws. The more you expect things, the more you get disappointed, just like in the scenario given above. Unconditional love never fades even though that relationship does not exist anymore.

LOVE is TRUSTWORTHY
Scenario 2: LIES

Lies can grow from telling your partner you like a food when you don't actually do, to telling him/her that you are busy with your studies or other positive things, when you are actually entertaining your lover. This is a sign of a relationship based in need.

It takes years to trust, seconds to break trust and forever to regain trust.
Solution: Be HONEST

Love is truthful. Lying comes from fear. If you want a loving relationship, 'Truth' should not be an option, its best when its a habit. Always.

LOVE IS TOLERANT

The need to modify them comes from your own expectations of how you think they should behave in order for you to feel supported and loved. This comes from not taking responsibility for your own security.

Solution: Let go.

When you see yourself manipulating or being overbearing, stop. Bring yourself into the moment and think to yourself, Oh, I can let that go. Go inward and focus on loving yourself. Then the need to control your partner will fall away.

LOVE DOES NOT ARGUE

When you realize that your conversations turn into arguments, try as much as possible to listen and pass your opinions across politely and understandingly. You will find out that the things that you least want to hear will help you the most.

Always express how you feel towards your partner, otherwise it will result to resentment. Most people think expressing their feelings will cause people to take advantage of them.

Solution: Be vulnerable.

A truly loving relationship will bear the test of the truth. Be honest about what you are feeling, and you will soon see the true nature of your relationship. Tell your partner how you feel — on a regular basis, whenever feelings come up. Don’t try to change them; express your feelings with the goal of being totally transparent, of showing yourself exactly as you are. Recognize the fear at the root of your tendency not to speak up, and allow yourself to feel it. By doing so, you will begin to release the emotional charge that causes resentment, and to replace it with love.

Be the partner you want to find, like they say "love your neighbour as you love yourself"

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NEWS: GOVERNMENT COVERS UP FOR CHILD ABUSE

Lord Tebbit: there 'may well' have been a Government cover-up of child abuse
The veteran former minister says it was the instinct of people at the time to protect 'the system' and not to delve too deeply into uncomfortable allegations


Lord Tebbit says he thinks there may well have been an establishment cover-up of child abuse in the 1980s Photo: Andrew Crowley/The Telegraph

A veteran former Conservative minister who served in the cabinet with Lord Brittan has said there “may well” have been an establishment cover-up of child abuse in the 1980s.


Lord Tebbit, who served in a series of ministerial posts under Margaret Thatcher at the same time as Lord Brittan, the former Home Secretary, said the instinct of people at the time was to protect "the system" and not to delve too deeply into uncomfortable allegations.

His comments come as Francis Maude, the Cabinet minister, said a probe was necessary to finally “lift up the drains” on who knew what about historic allegations of child abuse.

The Home Office announced a fresh review into what happened to a file alleging paedophile activity at Westminster which was handed to the then home secretary Leon (now Lord) Brittan by the Tory MP Geoffrey Dickens.

Appearing on BBC1's The Andrew Marr Show, Lord Tebbit said: "At that time I think most people would have thought that the establishment, the system, was to be protected and if a few things had gone wrong here and there that it was more important to protect the system than to delve too far into it.

"That view, I think, was wrong then and it is spectacularly shown to be wrong because the abuses have grown."

Asked if he thought there had been a "big political cover-up" at the time, he said: "I think there may well have been. But it was almost unconscious. It was the thing that people did at that time."

Speaking on Pienaar’s politics on BBC Radio 5 live Maude added that “nobody can be above the law” and “justice has to be done” over the allegations of child abuse.

Nigel Evans, the Conservative MP, said that someone "within the Home Office" must know what happened to the file.

He told Pienaar's politics: "There will be more than one person who would know that that file existed and has read that file and took the decision either to destroy it or if it's not been destroyed, it is somewhere, and I think that they really do need now to turn the Home Office upside down."

He added: "If nobody comes forward then they really do need to look absolutely everywhere to ensure that as Francis Maude said, nobody is above the law, we need to make sure that the people inside that file are properly investigated, and the question is, why weren't they investigated in the first place?"

Lord Brittan, now a Conservative peer, was challenged over what he knew about the dossier detailing an alleged Westminster paedophile ring that was passed to him when he was home secretary and later disappeared.

Lord Brittan confirmed that he was handed a “substantial bundle of papers” when he was Home

Secretary, an office he held from 1983 until 1983.

The papers were compiled by Geoffrey Dickens, then a Conservative MP, who had investigated child abuse networks.

Simon Danczuk, the Labour MP for Rochdale, has said that the Dickens papers contained details of paedophiles operating a network around Westminster.

Lord Brittan said that he passed the papers to Home Office officials and asked them to “look carefully” at the material they contained to see if any action was needed.

That investigation found that Lord Brittan had acted appropriately, the Home Office said. It also "found no evidence of Mr Dickens expressing dissatisfaction about the action taken in respect of the information he had passed on".

The Home Office investigation “shows that appropriate action and follow up happened" in relation to the papers, Lord Brittan said.

An internal review of hundreds of files last year found 13 previously undisclosed “items of information about alleged child abuse – including four implicating Home Office officials".

Mark Sedwill, who has been appointed by David Cameron to investigate claims of a Whitehall cover-up of political paedophiles, revealed that 114 potentially relevant files” were “presumed destroyed, missing or not found".

An independent legal figure, expected to be a promised QC, is to be appointed to conduct a review of the Home Office’s handling of the case.

The news comes as it emerged that Lord Brittan had been interviewed by police over a historical rape allegation.

The Independent on Sunday reported that Mr Britton was accused of raping a 19-year-old female student in 1967. He was not an MP at the time of the alleged incident at his London flat.

According to his lawyers Lord Brittan will not be making a comment today, but it is understood he strongly denies the allegation.

In a statement, a Metropolitan Police spokesman said a man in his 70s had been interviewed under caution.

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CYCLIST'S SHOCKING BEHAVIOUR TO SPECTATOR

The absence of home favourite Mark Cavendish did little to quell the tumultuous crowds in Yorkshire during stage two of the Tour de France. In fact, despite several warnings and pleas from both riders and race officials a very small minority of fans did create havoc on the narrow roads of the Peak District and Pennines.

Yellow jersey Marcel Kittel was felled early in the stage – and it was not his Giant Shimano team’s only spectator scare throughout the hilly stage in the north of England. Let’s take a closer look at these incidents and some other truths from yet another gripping day in – and out – of the saddle.

Not so smart phone

Quite why spectators think they their viewing experience will be made all the better by filming the action with their phones is beyond the realms of logic – particularly when the host broadcast feed of the Tour de France is so consistently brilliant.

Ramunas Navardauskas clearly shares the same opinion, the Garmin-Sharp rider losing his trademark Lithuanian cool in quite spectacular fashion as the peloton grappled through the crowds on the ascent of Holme Moss.

Third on Saturday’s opening stage, Navardauskas twice knocked phones out of the prying hands of spectators in what was the biggest rider backlash since Belgium’s Wout Poels snatched a spectator’s pair of sunglasses and threw them down a ravine during the Giro in May.

After the stage numerous riders complained about the rise of smartphones on the side of the road. “People are taking selfies with their back towards the peloton - it’s very dangerous,” Jurgen van den Broeck told Belgian TV. On Twitter, BMC’s Tejay van Garderen left a rather cryptic message thought to have been in reference to this current fad – although, to be fair, he may have been alluding to David Millar’s hat…

"A dangerous mix of vanity and stupidity........."
— Tejay van Garderen (@tejay_van) July 6, 2014

Spectator throws Roy a curveball

On any normal day the biggest worry for this man would be being spotted in public wearing a pink polo shirt. That was until he decided to watch the approaching peloton through the viewfinder of his camera, with his left arm and leg dangerously encroaching upon the road just as Giant Shimano’s Roy Curvers was preparing his man Marcel Kittel for the intermediate sprint.

Somehow both Curvers and a team-mate – perhaps Koen de Kort – avoided hitting the deck, but the spectator was clearly sent spinning to the floor in quite a violent fashion. Let’s hope that he escaped unscathed – and that next time he comes to watch a bike race he takes a couple of steps back and goes easy on doing his best French gendarme impression…

Take hat

Some people said he looked like Paddington Bear; others more like a Canadian Mountie. One thing’s certain, David Millar made his presence known while he still chews over his absence from the peloton.

Working as a TV consultant for the opening three stages of the race following his snub from Garmin-Sharp, Millar looked like he’d left his fixie in Shoreditch en route to Sheffield on Sunday. He’d hoped that the fans would be tossing him a few ‘chapeaux’ for his performances on the bike – but in the end he’s had to resort to bowling the public over with his sartorial panache.

No such thing as a free lunch

That may be – but there is such a thing as a free lunch musette when big Marcus Burghardt’s rolling through town. BMC’s German powerhouse classily put a smile on one boy’s face following the feeding zone at Hebden Bridge – and followed it up with an attack on the descent of Holme Moss.

Of course, what you don’t see in the above photo was the fallout when the same boy tried to take a photo of Ramunas Navardauskas just moments later…

It’ll take a return to French soil for this joke to run dry

For as long as the Tour stays in the UK it seems like the public mourning of Bradley Wiggins’ absence will continue unabated. And with the race heading near Wiggo’s old stomping ground of Kilburn on Sunday, we can expect the jokes to continue for at least another day.

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JESSICA SIMPSON TIES THE KNOT

Singer and actress Jessica Simpson has tied the knot.

She married retired NFL player Eric Johnson on Saturday at San Ysidro Ranch in Montecito, California, said her publicist Lauren Auslander.

Jessica and Eric began dating in 2010 and have a two-year-old daughter, Maxwell, and a one-year-old son named Ace.

Ms Auslander said Ace served as a ring bearer and Maxwell walked down the aisle as a flower girl.

It is the second marriage for both Jessica, 33, and 34-year-old Eric.

Jessica was previously married to singer Nick Lachey. The two co-starred on a VH1 reality series Newlyweds: Nick and Jessica for three seasons. Shortly after their third wedding anniversary, they split up.

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PIC OF THE DAY

Who says you need head phones or ear pieces for your phones? Speakers are always available . . .

#EnjoyYourWeekend

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FUNNY STORIES YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW. . .

If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days, you would have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of coffee.

The strongest muscle in proportion to its size in the human body is the tongue.

Every time you lick a stamp, you're consuming 1/10 of a calorie.

The human heart creates enough pressure when it pumps out to the body to squirt blood 30 feet.

Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an hour.

A person cannot taste food unless it is mixed with saliva. For example, if strong-tasting substance like salt is placed on a dry tongue, the taste buds will not be able to taste it. As soon as a drop of saliva is added and the salt is dissolved, however, a definite taste sensation results. This is true for all foods. Try it!

An average person falls asleep in seven minutes.

Your stomach has to produce a new layer of mucus every two weeks otherwise it will digest itself

Humans are the only primates that don't have pigment in the palms of their hands.

It's possible to lead a cow upstairs...but not downstairs.

The ant can lift 50 times its own weight, can pull 30 times its own weight and always falls over on its right side when intoxicated.

A cockroach will live nine days without it's head, before it starves to death.

Butterflies taste with their feet.

Elephants are the only mammals that can't jump (imagine what happens if it jumps, considering its size, LOL).

Starfish don't have brains.

Polar bears are left handed.

A duck's quack doesn't echo, and no one knows why.

An ostrich's eye is bigger that it's brain.

The longest recorded flight of a chicken is thirteen seconds.

The fingerprints of koala bears are virtually indistinguishable from those of humans, so much so that they could be confused at a crime scene.

Snails can sleep for 3 years without eating

Porcupines float in water.

Many hamsters only blink one eye at a time.

A giraffe can clean its ears with its 21-inch tongue!

Orcas (killer whales) kill sharks by torpedoing up into to shark's stomach from underneath, causing the shark to explode.

The number of possible ways of playing the first four moves per side in a game of chess is 318,979,564,000.

The sentence "The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog." uses every letter in the alphabet. (Developed by Western Union to Test telex/two communications)

The only 15 letter word that can be spelled without repeating a letter is "uncopyrightable".

No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver, and purple.

"I am" is the shortest complete sentence in the English language.

111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321

If you spell out consecutive numbers, you have to go up to one thousand until you would find the letter "a"

Men can read smaller print than women; women can hear better than men.

Bullet proof vests, fire escapes, windshield wipers, and laser printers were all invented by women.

Each king in a deck of playing cards represents a great king from history. Spades - King David; Clubs - Alexander the Great; Hearts - Charlemagne; and Diamonds - Julius Caesar.

Nutmeg is extremely poisonous if injected intravenously.

Honey is the only food that doesn't spoil.

It was discovered on a space mission that a frog can throw up. The frog throws up its stomach first, so the stomach is dangling out of its mouth. Then the frog uses its forearms to dig out all of the stomach's contents and then swallows the stomach back down again.

Studies show that if a cat falls off the seventh floor of a building, it has about thirty percent less chance of surviving than a cat that falls off the twentieth floor. It supposedly takes about eight floors for the cat to realise what is occurring, relax and correct itself.

Emus and kangaroos cannot walk backwards, and are on the Australian coat of arms for that reason.

Certain frogs can be frozen solid, then thawed, and survive.

Cat's urine glows under a black light.

To escape the grip of a crocodile's jaws, push your thumbs into its eyeballs - it will let you go instantly.

Babies are born without kneecaps. They don't appear until the child reaches 2-6 years of age.

Coca Cola was originally green.

Every person has a unique tongue print.

The most common name in the world is Mohammed

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